Cancer, menopause, illness, loss, and other significant life transitions often reveal patterns that were already present beneath the surface. Understanding those patterns is valuable, but understanding alone does not create change. Skills create change.
Pleasure, joy, playfulness, sensuality, and freedom, these are the experiences that make life rich and worth living. And yet, for so many of us, these states feel fleeting, distant, or completely out of reach. Why? Because without safety, pleasure cannot exist.
As you can imagine, this client arrived in a cloud of distress, frustration and uncertainty. Throughout the 90 minute session of conversation and somatic exercise, he was lit with reassurance, empowerment, confidence, curiosity and inspiration.
One very interesting thing that the polyvagal ladder reveals is how our sense of safety and connection are crucial to experiencing pleasure.
I know a thing or two about motivation and discipline, and I’m not just speaking from my experience as a fitness/figure/bodybuilding competitor.
Mainstream pornography promotes and perpetuates unrealistic expectations regarding female sexuality and orgasm.
Most of us vulva owners were fully grown adults when our pleasure organ was fully acknowledged by scientists.
Most people who have been socialised as female have been taught to put everyone else before themselves and not have an opinion. This shows up everywhere in life, especially within intimacy.
If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner or you’re feeling like your pathway to pleasure has become a very ingrained and narrow pattern or habit, this article is for you.
There are few things that are less arousing, less seductive, less erotic and less inviting than pressure. Here’s how to “recalibrate” instead of lowering your expectations.
