When there’s safety, authenticity, accountability, and integrity, we don’t just regulate, we evolve. This is how humanity moves from power-over survival into power-with collaboration, not through ideology, but through biology and lived experience.
In an abusive relationship, there is one abuser and one victim – that’s the truth. The victim doesn’t share equal responsibility for the abuse. The idea that there are “two abusers” is absurd and completely ignores the reality of what it’s like to be in that situation.
Relationships feel disconnected and cold when we leave people guessing the truth of what we’re up against – we leave them out in the cold.
As you can imagine, this client arrived in a cloud of distress, frustration and uncertainty. Throughout the 90 minute session of conversation and somatic exercise, he was lit with reassurance, empowerment, confidence, curiosity and inspiration.
This is an unconscious fiercely independent behaviour you developed in the hope to come off as “more attractive and desirable” to a partner.
Thriving relationships are co-created on a foundation of mutual trust, respect and love.
Shadow work provides the opportunity to dissolve the once unconscious egocentric aspects of self so that you can be who you truly are and experience the life you truly desire.
What is commonly labelled as “co-dependence” is not pathology – it’s adaptation.
It can, however, become deeply limiting when it shapes adult relationships.
There’s little awareness or warning when buying vibrators on the effect over stimulating has on the nervous system.