SOMATIC THERAPY | SOMATIC SEXOLOGY | NERVOUS SYSTEM RECOVERY

Testimonial

Hi Kate,

I just wanted to let you know that through working with you 1:1, I’ve been able to acknowledge what my body is trying to communicate to me as I’ve relaxed and as a result am no longer hypervigilant with men… And my libido has come back. I’m only in my late twenties but I’d lost the feeling of being alive a long time ago. It’s back, but grounded in reality. To feel alive you must feel safe first. I see my life getting better as I get older. I think I’m excited about my thirties…

Early sexual experiences distorted my beliefs and expectations around relationships and sex, which weren’t helped due to being autistic. These things were never talked about in my family and because of autism I didn’t even pick up on the horrible messaging from society. I was naive and so vulnerable. Sexuality and being in my body doesn’t come naturally to me, but I can hear what my body is saying now and I’m not really touch-averse anymore.

Connecting the dots that hormones are responsible for so much of what we experience made so much sense. Before I thought it was normal to be perimenopausal in your late twenties – no it isn’t. If cortisol=stress, what might the other hormones like oestrogen and testosterone mean? These relate to emotional states as well. Of course they do.

Through the sensation mapping I realised what a recurring theme in my dreams meant. Those dreams have not returned. I now know I must prioritise relaxation as I am now open to seeing the extent of what isn’t working in my life. Learning about consent doesn’t apply only to your relationships with people, but with yourself too.

I have guidelines for judging compatibility and safety early on and bodily awareness of what healthy exchange feels like in day-to-day interactions. I have tools and trust in myself to meet and communicate with people.

I feel alive and hopeful. Thank you Kate.

Vera