In an abusive relationship, there is one abuser and one victim – that’s the truth. The victim doesn’t share equal responsibility for the abuse. The idea that there are “two abusers” is absurd and completely ignores the reality of what it’s like to be in that situation.
Intimacy is a powerful form of medicine, deeply rooted in the biological exchange between partners. Through physical closeness and emotional connection, we trigger the release of a cascade of hormones that promote health and well-being.
Abusers are often highly manipulative, using charm, half truths, lies and calculated displays of remorse to forge a favourable image and deflect accountability.
As you can imagine, this client arrived in a cloud of distress, frustration and uncertainty. Throughout the 90 minute session of conversation and somatic exercise, he was lit with reassurance, empowerment, confidence, curiosity and inspiration.
One very interesting thing that the polyvagal ladder reveals is how our sense of safety and connection are crucial to experiencing pleasure.
I know a thing or two about motivation and discipline, and I’m not just speaking from my experience as a fitness/figure/bodybuilding competitor.
You’ll be equipped with somatic learning and tools to integrate harmonious hormones and transform current relationships to a higher octave, or be empowered to create new ones.
This is an unconscious fiercely independent behaviour you developed in the hope to come off as “more attractive and desirable” to a partner.
Thriving relationships are co-created on a foundation of mutual trust, respect and love.
