Most of us have been taught that power comes from discipline, willpower, or holding ourselves together. But without the ability to feel, understand, and respond to our emotions, both our own and those of others, that power is incomplete. It becomes rigid, limited, and blind to the world around.
Most people believe “time heals,” that if we distract ourselves long enough, the emotions will fade. But avoidance doesn’t heal, it postpones. True recovery happens when we safely feel, process, and recalibrate our nervous system, not when we bury emotions and hope they go away. Our body and our emotions aren’t working against us, they’re the map guiding us back to health, clarity, and wholeness.
Kate Alderman – Somatic Therapist, Somatic Sexologist, Nervous System Recovery Coach, Brainz Magazine Executive Contributor, founder of You’re A Strong Woman Foundation, and domestic violence survivor, has announced a groundbreaking collaboration with Arakan Martial Art®. Led by founder and chief instructor Master Robert Kyaw, Arakan is recognised as one of Australia’s most respected real-world martial arts training organisations.
In a world that idealises toughness, discipline, and self-control, trauma often hides in plain sight. We learn to armour up, to push through, to master our fear, but beneath the surface, our nervous system tells the truth.
Pleasure, joy, playfulness, sensuality, and freedom, these are the experiences that make life rich and worth living. And yet, for so many of us, these states feel fleeting, distant, or completely out of reach. Why? Because without safety, pleasure cannot exist.
Sexual selection by females is a driving force of evolution. It’s not just biological — it’s emotional and spiritual. The choices women make in who they allow into their bodies, their hearts, their lives — this is an act of creation. These choices ripple out into the world, shaping not only their lives, but the very fabric of collective consciousness and human evolution.
For many women, the womb is more than just a physical organ. It’s a centre of profound wisdom, creativity, and intuition. In a world that often prioritises logic over feeling, and productivity over presence, many of us become disconnected from our bodies, especially if we’ve experienced trauma.
In an abusive relationship, there is one abuser and one victim – that’s the truth. The victim doesn’t share equal responsibility for the abuse. The idea that there are “two abusers” is absurd and completely ignores the reality of what it’s like to be in that situation.
Intimacy is a powerful form of medicine, deeply rooted in the biological exchange between partners. Through physical closeness and emotional connection, we trigger the release of a cascade of hormones that promote health and well-being.
By recognising what true respect, trust, and equality feel like in a relationship, we can empower ourselves and others to choose better. You are worthy of a relationship where your voice is heard, your boundaries are respected, and your growth is nurtured. Abuse is not normal, and is never acceptable. You’re stronger than you think, and your journey to healing starts today.
