Most of us have been taught that power comes from discipline, willpower, or holding ourselves together. But without the ability to feel, understand, and respond to our emotions, both our own and those of others, that power is incomplete. It becomes rigid, limited, and blind to the world around.
Most people believe “time heals,” that if we distract ourselves long enough, the emotions will fade. But avoidance doesn’t heal, it postpones. True recovery happens when we safely feel, process, and recalibrate our nervous system, not when we bury emotions and hope they go away. Our body and our emotions aren’t working against us, they’re the map guiding us back to health, clarity, and wholeness.
Kate Alderman – Somatic Therapist, Somatic Sexologist, Nervous System Recovery Coach, Brainz Magazine Executive Contributor, founder of You’re A Strong Woman Foundation, and domestic violence survivor, has announced a groundbreaking collaboration with Arakan Martial Art®. Led by founder and chief instructor Master Robert Kyaw, Arakan is recognised as one of Australia’s most respected real-world martial arts training organisations.
For many women, the womb is more than just a physical organ. It’s a centre of profound wisdom, creativity, and intuition. In a world that often prioritises logic over feeling, and productivity over presence, many of us become disconnected from our bodies, especially if we’ve experienced trauma.
In an abusive relationship, there is one abuser and one victim – that’s the truth. The victim doesn’t share equal responsibility for the abuse. The idea that there are “two abusers” is absurd and completely ignores the reality of what it’s like to be in that situation.
As you can imagine, this client arrived in a cloud of distress, frustration and uncertainty. Throughout the 90 minute session of conversation and somatic exercise, he was lit with reassurance, empowerment, confidence, curiosity and inspiration.
One very interesting thing that the polyvagal ladder reveals is how our sense of safety and connection are crucial to experiencing pleasure.
I know a thing or two about motivation and discipline, and I’m not just speaking from my experience as a fitness/figure/bodybuilding competitor.
Thriving relationships are co-created on a foundation of mutual trust, respect and love.
Stress, disordered eating, being underweight, and too much exercise are the main causes of hypothalamic amenorrhea.
